False Alarm

MammaDawg at 12:35 AM

Nope - no pregnancy to announce (lol, @nominimom).

And no, guess we're not moving after all.

I think I did pretty good, about not tearing off Skinny Ass' head when he told me how he felt about the job opportunity.

I mean, I DID ask him last night how he felt about it, what was his gut instinct.

But when he evaded my questions a second time, I figured, "Okay, he doesn't want to tell me. He wants me to figure out for myself if I'd like to make this move or not."

So I enlisted your help - and you guys totally came through! You gave me some great feedback - I felt like it was all coming along nicely.

Putting aside work projects, I proceeded to spend the next few hours diving into research about Denver, CO - stats, schools, real estate. I'm always open to change (even if I may be a little nervous - or anxious) but mostly because it's inevitable and best managed if I'm not fighting against it.

When going out to eat, I try out different dishes and only order my favorite dish every 3rd or 4th visit. In Sin City, I like to try out different hotels, see different shows - I love the experience of it all. I wanna live it up.

Skinny Ass? He almost always orders a steak and potatoes. And he always tries to talk me into going back to the same hotel.

While I love the Wynn (gotta love US Airways packages!) - I wanna see... MORE. Do more. Experience more.

So to me, Denver would be - quite frankly, a new adventure for us.

And what do you think Skinny Ass had to say?

Turns out the hotel isn't of the same... caliber as his current one. Plus, he hates any kind of cold weather, and we'd be a WAYS from my family in San Diego. Never mind having to take a loss on this house with the state the economy is in.

"Damn, babe. I wish you could've told me this last night. I wouldn't have wasted so much time researching everything if I knew you felt this way."

That's another problem we have. He likes to sit and think things through. Me? I'm going full speed ahead, 100 mph. He calls me Mario Friggin' Andretti.

"Yeah, but - I was processing."

"Processing? Processing what? I asked you for your gut instinct on it. How you felt. What's there to process about that? [Pause.] I could've gotten some work done."

"Oh. It's okay, though - it's good for you to learn about other areas and stuff for us..."

Shithead. I wondered why I didn't go off on him... though I guess a part of me could empathize with how he felt, and when I learned more about the hotel - I understood his lack of excitement.

You usually move for a promotion to a bigger hotel or a better brand. This new opportunity could almost be classified as a step below.

(sigh) But I betcha - if the job were in San Diego, he wouldn't have minded. A few months ago, he considered a job opening with a beefed up motel.

*piercing stare*

"I am NOT letting you run a Holiday Inn."

lol - but I guess with all our differences, we somehow end up balancing each other out in the end. How 'bout you? How do you guys handle "big" decisions in your family?

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